White People – We Have To Do Better

We have to do better.

As a kid I was fed a delicious lie that we lived in a post racist and post sexist society. I was told that the world is a melded together homogenous culture where everyone is treated equally. 

Obviously, that’s a lie. 

That lie, and our willingness to believe in it, has done so much damage. The white privileged belief that things are “getting better” or “ok” is a cozy, comfortable lie. We have to stop spreading it.

“The beauty of anti-racism is that you don’t have to pretend to be free of racism to be anti-racist. Anti-racism is the commitment to fight racism wherever you find it, including in yourself. And it’s the only way forward.”

-Ijeoma Oluo

With our privileged white blinders on we have all benefited from our white supremacist culture. We have never had to worry about playing our music too loud, being falsely accused of a crime because we “fit the description”, having the cops called on us for walking in our neighborhood.

We have an immense amount of privilege and we MUST use it to meet the needs of those affected by our generations of oppression and negligence.

Does this make you a little uncomfortable? It should. 

Have you caught yourself thinking “well, I’m one of the good ones?” Then you’re part of the problem.

“In a racist society, it is not enough to be non-racist, we must be anti-racist.”

– Angela Y. Davis

Now, we need to take action. 

Below is an evergreen list of ways to use your money, time, and educate yourself to help the black community.


It is not the job of the oppressed to educate their oppressors. Please do not ask the black community to educate you on racism. Educate yourself, look for resources (some linked below), elevate the voices of black people and when in doubt give your money to black women, especially black trans women!

When you make a mistake (and you will make a mistake) DO NOT GIVE UP. Take your lesson in stride, learn from your mistake, educate others with your mistake, and KEEP DOING THE WORK.

On looting and the definition of violence: We live in a capitalist society that puts more value on property than human lives. When you are more worried about a CVS or Target than you are about the MURDER of a black man then you are part of the problem. Address this within yourself and learn from it.

Some ways to Use Your Money

Minnesota Freedom Fund https://minnesotafreedomfund.org/

This continually updated document: Resources for Accountability and Action for Black lives (includes petitions for those who may not be able to donate financially) https://docs.google.com/document/u/1/d/1Xa9Av-NfuFsWBHlsMvPiqJHdNedZgnCRW56qAS-7PGQ/mobilebasic?urp=gmail_link

Some ways to Educate Yourself On Racism, White Supremacy & How To Be A Better Ally

And another anti-racism resource list: https://docs.google.com/document/u/1/d/1BRlF2_zhNe86SGgHa6-VlBO-QgirITwCTugSfKie5Fs/mobilebasic?fbclid=IwAR2UUWrU_JSvET7gJ7mNUxnxUVfHTd2pR9ukRbZqVj_XTjWKHV4Aj3XOfFQ&urp=gmail_link

Have additional resources you want to share? Email butreallythocoaching@gmail.com and I’ll add them OR put them in the comments. 

Do better.

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